I’m Alexis—a therapist and relationship coach focused on avoidant attachment, breakups, and self-awareness in love.

For years, I thought my avoidant traits were a strength—like a superpower. I stayed in control, never got too close, and avoided pain by keeping people at a distance.
But what I called “independence” was actually fear. It took understanding attachment for everything to finally make sense.

That’s why I do this work.

My Approach

I help people make sense of messy relationship patterns—especially those rooted in the anxious-avoidant dynamic. Whether you're trying to understand an avoidant partner, heal from a confusing breakup, or reconnect with yourself, I offer tools that are:

  • Practical (because healing needs structure)
  • Science-backed (no fluff or TikTok myths)
  • Action-oriented (we don’t just talk—we implement)

With a background in psychology, hypnotherapy, and thousands of hours coaching real people through real emotional pain, I know what works—and what doesn’t.

The Secure Base Method

I created the Secure Base Method, a practical framework for navigating anxious-avoidant relationships.
It’s designed to help avoidant partners open up—without pressure or emotional overwhelm.
And for the anxious partner, it creates space for self-trust, nervous system regulation, and sustainable connection.

This method bridges emotional safety and autonomy—so both people can feel secure without losing themselves.

Who I Work With

  • If you're dealing with an avoidant partner, I’ll help you decode their behavior and create conditions for meaningful connection.
  • If you’re going through a breakup, I’ll guide you through healing, detachment, and, if appropriate, reconnection.
  • If you’re avoidant yourself, I’ll help you get closer—without feeling trapped or overwhelmed.

Through 1:1 coaching, digital courses, and a growing community, I help people shift their relationships by first shifting their relationship with themselves.

Why This Site Exists

There’s a lot of noise out there—hot takes, surface-level advice, and content that oversimplifies complex dynamics.
This site exists to give you real tools, rooted in psychology and lived experience, to help you:

  • Heal from heartbreak without losing yourself
  • Understand avoidant dynamics without self-blame
  • Build secure, sustainable relationships—starting with you

Whether you’re here to learn, heal, or grow—this is your space.

Ready to get started?

Book a free assessment call to find the best path forward—tailored to your attachment style, your nervous system, and your goals.
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